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​National Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Information and Support

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National Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Information and Support

Blog by Ashley Simpson, LCSW at Agape Therapy Institute

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This is a month for survivors, advocates, activists, and loved ones to get together, to stay educated, and to spread information about services for folks to get help. 

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) researches the prevalence of domestic violence in each state and nationwide. They report “In the United States, more than 10 million adults experience domestic violence annually” and “1 in 4 women and 1 in 10 men experience sexual violence, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime with ‘IPV-related impact’ such as being concerned for their safety, PTSD symptoms, injury, or needing victim services.” 

Some things to know about domestic violence:

Types of Abuse:

  • Physical - hitting, pushing, choking...
  • Sexual - rape, molestation, forced viewing of sexual material/acts....
  • Emotional - put downs, name calling, blaming,  shaming...
  • Power & Control - manipulation, gas lighting, see more below...

Power and control are often the most common, and most misunderstood, aspects of domestic violence.

Domestic Violence is about power and control. Ways that abusers maintain control can be: controlling who their partner is allowed to see or talk to, monitoring phone and/or internet access, controlling money, keeping identification documents, using children in fights (ex: “If you leave me I will take the kids and you’ll never see them again!”)

Getting Help:

Thanks to the Violence Against Women Act that was passed in 1994, there are more services and protections for survivors. Some resources are:

  • Call: 1-800-799-7233(SAFE)
  • Text: TTY: 1-800-787-3224
  • Specific for teens/young adults:
    Website: Loveisrespect.org
    Call/Text: 1-866-331-9474

**A SAFETY note here. If you are currently in an abusive relationship, be sure to clear your browser history after accessing any information about domestic violence. The most dangerous time for a person in an abusive relationship is when they are attempting to leave. This is due to the abuser feeling a sense of loss of their power and control over you.

Support:

If you are a survivor, there are ways to tell your story, get connected with other survivors, and to get linked up with advocacy groups.

  • Individual Therapy - This is a safe place to process what you are going through, and/or what you have survived. There is power in telling your story and processing what has happened and what you have overcome. You may have symptoms due to the trauma you experienced and therapy is a great way to start coping with and alleviating these symptoms. We have experienced therapists here at Agape Therapy Institute and you can book an appointment on our website agapementalhealth.org. There are also therapists available on psychologytoday.com.
  • Support Groups - Support groups are a wonderful way to tell your story and to connect with other survivors and hear their stories. If the group is led by a licensed clinician you also have the benefit of learning some coping skills to deal with symptoms you may be experiencing due to the trauma you survived. There are many support groups for domestic violence and relationships on psychologytoday.com. Under “Get Help” there is a category on the far left “Talk to Someone”, and under that heading is “Support Groups”.
  • Advocacy Groups - Joining an advocacy group can be a way to use your voice and your power to help others. Helping others is a proven way to regain a sense of optimism, hope, and self-esteem. You can be trained to be a peer support person through thehotline.org. **Note: Make sure that before joining an advocacy group you have processed your own trauma. We cannot help others before we first help ourselves. Remember the oxygen mask metaphor. You must first put on your oxygen mask before you help another person to put on theirs. 

With the national and state statistics as high as they are, it is highly likely that we all know someone, or are that someone, who has experienced interpersonal violence. Being informed about the ways to get help is the first step towards helping yourself or someone else. Reach out, safely. There are people waiting and ready for your call. 

To book an appointment with Ashley Simpson, LCSW, click here.


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  • codependency
  • community
  • counseling
  • depression
  • domestic violence
  • healing
  • mental health
  • psychotherapy
  • relationships
  • resilience
  • self help
  • self-care
  • solution focused
  • stress
  • trauma

​Relationship Tips for 2020 – Part 3

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Relationship Tips for 2020 – Part 3

Blog by Jenn Baker, GSCI at Agape Therapy Institute

Welcome to Part three of Relationship Tips for 2020. If you haven’t already, you can read Parts 1 and 2 for tips on acknowledging your partner and taking time for yourself. 

I’d like to follow up on last week’s relationship tips and have you check in with yourself. Were you able to carve out some alone time for self-care last week? Did you struggle to find the time? Think about some ways that you can prioritize self-care in your life. Loving others begins with self-love and you are worthy of love. 

For this week, I’d like to focus on: 

Connecting with Friends and Family – Humans are social creatures by nature. We all need social support and connection to thrive as individuals and couples. While alone time is very important, it is also important to maintain our connection with others. 

Consider taking time during your day to reach out to friends and family. Think of the things that you used to do with them pre-pandemic. If you can’t socialize in the same ways, find creative solutions to connect with your loved ones safely. 

Alternatives to face-to-face interactions, could include:

    • Online video chats
    • Virtual game nights
    • Go for a walk outside with a friend
    • Host an outdoor picnic
    • Be creative!

Stay tuned for next week’s blog with the next relationship tip for 2020.

To make an appointment with Jenn Baker, GSCI, click here.


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Tags:

  • community
  • counseling
  • couples therapy
  • covid
  • family therapy
  • healing
  • mental health
  • mindfulness
  • partnership
  • psychotherapy
  • relationships
  • self help
  • self-care
  • solution focused

​Relationship Tips for 2020 – Part 2

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Relationship Tips for 2020 – Part 2

Blog by Jenn Baker, GSCI at Agape Therapy Institute

Welcome to Part two of Relationship Tips for 2020. Last week’s blog discussed how to increase positive interactions with your partner by using acknowledgments, which means offering words of appreciation. During the last week, did you and your partner have a chance to acknowledge one another? How did it feel to offer and receive appreciation? 

For many of us, trying something new may feel uncomfortable at first. Like anything else, it will become more natural over time with practice. Be patient and kind with yourself and your loved one. Remembering to bring this practice into your daily life will continue to strengthen your connection. 

For this week, I’d like to focus on:

  • Making Time For Yourself – No matter how much we love being with our loved ones, every person needs alone time to de-stress and recharge. Coordinate and plan this special time each and every day. Make sure that you use this time to care solely for yourself. Unplug from your phone, social media, and the news. Focus on doing something that brings you peace or joy. You may find it helpful to make a list of activities that you love and check one off the list every day. Some ideas include:
    • Taking a bubble bath
    • Listening to music
    • Meditating
    • Getting outdoors
    • Watching your favorite TV show
    • Reading a book
    • Writing in a journal
    • Cooking your favorite meal
    • Anything you love to do for you

Stay tuned for next week’s blog with the next relationship tip for 2020.

To book an appointment with Jennifer Baker, GSCI click here.


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Tags:

  • communication
  • counseling
  • couples therapy
  • family therapy
  • healing
  • mental health
  • mindfulness
  • partnership
  • psychotherapy
  • relationships
  • self help
  • self-care
  • stress

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