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9/11 Never Forget You’re Never Alone

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As a born a bred New Yorker, this day is a hard one for me to swallow.  It was the day the face of my home was forever changed, the day life as we knew it in this country forever changed, and it ushered in a time of fear, worry and resilience.   I was not in NY on 9/11 but that doesn’t mean like so many others in our country and around the world we were not affected. I know I was.

I remember thinking how sorry I felt for the pilot who was not able to miss a 110 story tall building.  How naïve I was, but then the second plane crashed, and the third, and the fourth…. I was at work watching my world forever change not knowing what I was witnessing. But 17 years later as I watch the opening of the remembrance ceremony at ground zero my eyes well with tears as my throat closes and I want to weep for all of those who were lost 17 years ago today.  I also grieve for the way of life that was take from us on that fateful day.

Forever and always we have to face our mortality in a whole new way.  There has always been apprehension with some when flying, now we live in a world in which we wonder for a split second if there is someone on our flight willing to do what was done on that day.  As I write this my own mother is in a plane flying in the air to New York City, and do you know what I say? Good for her! I hope there are many people flying today, to show those who wished to see us crumble in fear, that we may be afraid but we will not back down.

But, that got me thinking on the topics of for fear, anxiety, and depression. Since 9/11 if we allowed ourselves to drown in to it we could drown in our fears and sorrows, and some of us need to go there for a while and that’s ok.  When you have witnessed or experienced a horribly traumatic event such as 9/11, it can be hard to know which way is up. And if we find our way through the depression and anxiety we may not think we have what it takes to pull ourselves out.  But that is what is so important, we must do what we can to work our way out.

When it comes to depression, it is a mental health disorder in which you experience a low or sad mood more often than not and it affects the way you think, feel and behave.  You feel sad, down, empty, can experience frequent crying, have lost interest or pleasure in things that used to make you happy, and no matter how much you want to, nothing helps you feel better.  It has physical effects on you as well. It can make you extremely tired due to the insomnia or hypersomnia that comes with depression, you can feel achy or even ill. All of this leads to changes in behavior as well, you can find that you isolate yourself more because you don’t want to be a burden on your friends and loved ones who seem to be fine so why bring them down with your stuff right?  Wrong! No matter what has caused the depressive state you are in, keeping yourself isolated from the world, although seems like a good idea, only helps you sink further into your depression.

So if we are in a depressed state what can we do to help ourselves out?  My first piece of advice is to get help! Whether you seek the counsel of a good friend or go straight for professional help, get help!  Your depression wants you alone, isolated, and lonely so it can wreak havoc on your mind, don’t let it. You also need to reframe the thoughts that are keeping you in a depressive state and repeat the positive self-talk over and over again until you start to believe it.  You can also try journaling to help express the unresolved emotions that have kept you in a depressive state. There are so many things that can be done to help lessen and alleviate your depression, but there is one key ingredient. It is willingness. You must be willing to do the work.  Getting depressed was not a quick and easy process, getting out of it might not be either, but I am here to tell you that although it can feel like running through drying cement, working your way out of depression is not impossible.

If you or someone you know may be struggling with depression, please know that it is only part of your journey, depression is not your final destination.  It is normal to have ups and downs in life, but when we get suck in the down swings, please know that is not normal and there is help. We would love to help walk you through your own journey here at Agape Therapy Institute.

Written by Iliana Torres, LMHC
Therapist at Agape Therapy Institute
To book an appointment with Iliana, please call (407) 900-8633

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  • anxiety
  • community
  • counseling
  • depression
  • healing
  • mental health
  • mental health
  • psychotherapy
  • resilience
  • stress
  • trauma

September 10, 2018 is National Suicide Prevention Day

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September 10, 2018 is National Suicide Prevention Day 

The National Alliance on Mental Health states that, “each year more than 34,000 individuals take their own life, leaving behind thousands of friends and family members to navigate the tragedy of their loss. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death among adults in the U.S. and the 3rd leading cause of death among adolescents” (NAMI).

A few ways we can partake in National Suicide Prevention Day are by being aware of possible warning signs and risks, what resources are available, and by engaging in activities to raise awareness about suicide.

Potential Warning Signs in Behavior:

  • Withdrawal from social settings or gatherings  
  • Increased use of substances (drugs, alcohol)
  • Reckless or unusual behavior
  • Threats or comments about death, including speaking or writing about it

Potential Risks: 

  • Family history of suicide
  • History of trauma or abuse
  • A recent loss or tragedy
  • Substance abuse

See more risks and warning signs to look for from NAMI by clicking here.

Suggested Activities for Raising Awareness of Suicide:

See other activities and volunteer opportunities here at the NAMI website.

If you or someone you know may be struggling with thoughts of suicide or depression, call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) or text HOME to 741741 for 24/7 Crisis Counseling.

If you’d like to talk to one of our counselors, call our office at 407-900-8633 to setup an appointment.

Written by Kelsey Noonan, Patient Care Coordinator at Agape Therapy Institute.


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  • National Suicide Prevention Day

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  • anxiety
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  • depression
  • mental health
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  • self-care
  • self-care
  • self-care
  • self-care
  • stress
  • stress
  • substance abuse
  • suicide

3 Reasons to Be for Yourself by Rick Hanson, PhD

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Hi There!

I'm sharing this because it's too good not to.  I absolutely love Rick Hanson - he's one of my favorites!  He blends mindfulness, neuroscience and practicality so seamlessly.  So, I'm super excited to announce that he's coming out with a new book!  To preorder your copy of Resilient: How To Grow An Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness click here.  (By the way, I'm not affiliated with him - this is just a genuine wanting to share a great resource.)  

Besides that, though, I also wanted to share his recent blog post on 3 Reasons to Be for Yourself.  Client "read more" below to continue reading.

Enjoy!

-Susan Deane, LMHC, LMFT

To Book An Appointment with Susan: https://agape.clientsecure.me 

3 Reasons to Be for Yourself
by Rick Hanson, PhD


When we treat others with respect and caring, the best in them usually comes out. Much the same would happen if we could treat ourselves the same way.

Yet most of us are a better friend to others than we are to ourselves. We care about their pain, see positive qualities in them, and treat them fairly and kindly. But what kind of friend are you to yourself? Many people are tough on themselves, critical, second-guessing and self-doubting, tearing down rather than building up.

Imagine treating yourself like you would a friend. You'd be encouraging, warm, and sympathetic, and you'd help yourself heal and grow. Think about what a typical day would be like if you were on your own side. What would it feel like to appreciate your good intentions and good heart, and be less self-critical?

Why It's Good to Be Good to Yourself
It helps to understand the reasons why it's both fair and important to be on your own side. Otherwise, beliefs like these can take over: "It's selfish to think about what you want." "You don't deserve love." "Deep down you're bad." "You'll fail if you dream bigger dreams."

First, there's the general principle that we should treat people with decency and compassion. Well, "people" includes the person who wears your nametag. The Golden Rule is a two-way street: we should do unto ourselves as we do unto others.

Second, the more influence we have over someone, the more responsibility we have to treat them well. For example, surgeons have great power over their patients, so they have a great duty to be careful when they operate on them. Who's the one person you can affect the most? It's yourself, both you in this moment and your future self: the person you will be in the next minute, week, or year. If you think of yourself as someone to whom you have a duty of care and kindness, what might change in how you talk to yourself, and in how you go about your day?

    Third, being good to yourself is good for others. When people increase their own well-being, they usually become more patient, cooperative, and caring in their relationships.

    Think about how it would benefit others if you felt less stressed, worried, or irritated, and more peaceful, contented, and loving.

You can take practical steps to help yourself really believe that it's good to treat yourself with respect and compassion. You could write down simple statements – such as "I am on my own side" or "I'm taking a stand for myself" or "I matter, too" – and read them aloud to yourself or put them somewhere you'll see each day. You could imagine telling someone why you are going to take better care of your own needs. Or imagine a friend, a mentor, or even your fairy godmother telling you to be on your own side – and let them talk you into it!

Tags:

  • counseling
  • mental health
  • mindfulness
  • psychotherapy
  • self-care

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